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“The coping mechanisms you learned as a child will suffocate you as an adult.” - Barbara Stanny

In the last lesson we got clear on your crystal clear outcomes. Now that we’ve gotten clear on that, we’re going to get clear on who you need to become to have that. We started this with your Divine Self meditation, but today we’re going to go even deeper.

Because the truth is, as much as we *say* we want something, it were safe for your subconscious to have it you would have it already.

We all have things that we consciously *want* - more money, more clients, a super hot sex life - but unless it’s showing up in our material reality, part of our identity is still attached to the thing that we *don’t want.*

So, one of the biggest shifts you can make in terms of becoming a wealth alchemist and becoming someone who attracts magical synchronicities, abundance, and fun like WHOA, is to uncover and integrate the stories that are keeping you stuck.

This creates a more whole, more integrated identity as the you who is showing up fully in your power, magic, and joy.

Our approach differs slightly from classic Law of Attraction, which says that all you have to do is focus on the desire and it will come about. This creates a shit ton of resistance to the part of you that is super attached to the present state, and is actually deathly afraid of change.

And I promise you, there is a part of you that is deathly afraid of change ;)

We have to give massive love and approval to the part of us that is holding on to the present situation for dear life, then - and only then - does it start to loosen, and we can move powerfully forward.

For example, when I first started in my business I was terrified of sharing my message because I was afraid of what people would think of me. I thought people would think I was too “woo,” too “out there,” and stupid for even trying. I was really attached to this story because it gave me an excuse to not build my business. Which my subconscious LOVED, because duh - building a business is a very risky proposition! A lot of things change!

It wasn’t until I started to look at all the places where *I* thought I was too “woo,” too “out there,” and stupid for even trying that things started to shift.

That allowed me to start to recognize those stories as not true, and choose new ones. The new stories, combined with the meditation in exercise two, allowed me to start actually showing up and putting myself out there as the woman I knew I was, but until then hadn’t yet allowed myself to be.

As we start to recognize and unpack these stories and make them conscious, we can shift them and start to create new realities for ourselves.

Exercise: Change Your Story Worksheet

Download the Change Your Story Worksheet to practice this.

 
 
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Now that we’ve gotten clear on you

as your most divine, powerful leader, we can start to communicate that to your audience.

Knowing who you are and what you believe allows you to show up fully for your people - potential clients, stakeholders, collaborators, followers on social media - and increases that elusive know, like, and trust factor that enables them to work with you, sign up with you, or buy your products.

The people who believe the same thing will resonate with you and start to gravitate towards you. And that is the beginning of your platform.

 
 
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Exercise: Your campfire beliefs

Set a timer for ten minutes.

Tap back into your vision from lesson one. Your vision of what you believe is possible for yourself, for your people, and for the world.

For ten minutes, you are going to free write filling in the blank of: I believe ________________

I believe this, I believe that, I believe I believe I believe.

For example: I believe that every woman deserves to share her truth. I believe your deepest wound is the source of your greatest magic. I believe that you are your own highest healer, teacher, and guide. I believe the Universe is always working in your favor.

Write, write, write, write for ten minutes straight. Don’t stop.

When you’re done, you’ll have a list of your campfire beliefs. Your campfire beliefs are the things that you stand for, the fire that gathers your people. This is the beginning of your magical message.

You can start to post these on social media, use them for email content, or weave them into a workshop immediately. Or if they need more time to marinate, let them sit for a day or two and then revisit this exercise.

Download this as a worksheet here.

 
 
 
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You are here because you feel like you

have something important and vital to share with the world. That important, vital thing is within you. It comes from working through your deepest fears and healing your most stubborn challenges, coming out the other side, and then sharing what you’ve learned with others.

This is how you share the message that only you can, because you are the only one who can tell your story in the way you can tell it. Only you received the insights from your journey. Only you have the wisdom that that experience gave you.

To ancient alchemists, transmutation means to change from an undesirable appearance into a desirable appearance. They worked to metaphorically transmute lead into gold, by which they really meant transforming ordinary consciousness into a state of enlightenment.

Similarly, we can use the principle of transmutation to any area of our lives, but specifically the area of our lives that we most struggle with.

You can transmute any object or situation by changing or transmuting how you experience it. Most of us make ourselves bad and wrong for our issues, when really, in our issues lies our magic.

So for the purposes of this lesson, we are going to suspend self-judgement, criticism, and disbelief, and get curious as to how we can transmute the lead of our negative experiences into the gold of our healing message for the world.

Similarly, we can use the principle of transmutation to any area of our lives, but specifically the area of our lives that we most struggle with.

You can transmute any object or situation by changing or transmuting how you experience it. Most of us make ourselves bad and wrong for our issues, when really, in our issues lies our magic.

So for the purposes of this lesson, we are going to suspend self-judgement, criticism, and disbelief, and get curious as to how we can transmute the lead of our negative experiences into the gold of our healing message for the world.

One of my mentors once pulled a card for me that had a peacock on it. The card represented “Alchemy,” another word for transmutation, which she said was perfect because the peacock is the only animal that can eat poison and not die. It literally transmutes the poison within its body and uses it in positive ways.

Ever since then peacocks have been one of my favorite symbols of the power of this work.

When you think about it, we take poison into our bodies all the time. Fears of not being good enough, scarcity, lack, etc. Other people’s projections. Our family baggage. All the ways we keep ourselves small. Literally the list goes on and on.

It is our job as healers and leaders to take on the energy of the peacock to work through this poison, transmute it, and offer its beauty to the world.

 
 
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So, how do we do this?

The Hero’s Journey is a model for personal transformation that was developed by Joseph Campbell by studying the myths and legends of many different cultures. He identified stages and experiences that each hero shared along their path, that we can now use and relate to as we follow our own heroic paths.

Oftentimes I find, especially when we are working through our seemingly unique struggles and challenges, we can feel really alone. The truth is that even though you are the only one who’s had your exact experience, your ideal clients have had similar experiences.

So getting clear on your story and the journey you went through to get where you are, and being able to share that with them from a grounded, healed place, will help them resonate and connect with you more deeply.

The traditional Hero’s Journey focuses on an outward journey, i.e., the hero has to leave home, fight the dragon, etc. For our purposes we are taking an * inward * journey as in, leaving the metaphorical home of our comfortable behaviors, fighting the dragon of our limiting beliefs, etc. So keep that in mind as you’re reading the phases and the exercises.

There are twelve steps, outlined below. You won’t go through all of these in the exercises ;) but I wanted to give them to you for your information.

Getting clear on your story and the journey you went through to get where you are, and being able to share that with your audience from a grounded, healed place, will help them resonate and connect with you more deeply.

The traditional Hero’s Journey focuses on an outward journey, i.e., the hero has to leave home, fight the dragon, etc. For our purposes we are taking an * inward * journey as in, leaving the metaphorical home of our comfortable behaviors, fighting the dragon of our limiting beliefs, etc. So keep that in mind as you’re reading the phases and the exercises.

There are twelve steps, outlined below. You won’t go through all of these in the exercises ;) but I wanted to give them to you for your information.

For the purposes of this lesson, we are only using a few key turning points on the journey:

Ordinary world

The beginning of the story. We learn about the hero, start to identify with her, learn more about her home and what makes her, “her.”  We know, like, and trust her and feel like she is “one of us.” We also learn that there is a central issue that must be resolved. (This is the “before” part of a before/after story”).

Hearing the call

Something happens where the hero realizes that she can’t keep going the way she’s been going. Something must change, the quest must be undertaken. This may come as a bank notice, doctors appointment, something jarring enough to inspire the hero to finally take action. Sometimes the call has to come multiple times (change is scary!).

Meeting the mentor

The hero encounters a mentor who offers a path forward to overcome the initial fears and say yes to the adventure. Their mindset is broadened, they see someone else doing it with more possibility. This is the program, coach, concept, idea that helped you realize that how you’ve been thinking about your challenge is limited and there is a different way.

Ordeal, death, and rebirth

How you transmuted your issue/ faced the fear / had a breakthrough/ healed. This is facing the dragon, sending the email, giving the speech, doing the scary thing and what you learn about yourself in the process. You also discover that you don’t die. Or rather, you do die to your old life, but there is new life on the other side of the scary thing.

Reward

What you get in reward for facing your fear, the magical world on the other side of the breakthrough, that you knew was possible all along. A better relationship with your body, more business opportunities, signing clients, more confidence, etc. This is the “after” part of your before/after story, and the result you got after all of that work.

Return with the gift

Coming back to your community with your new insight and lesson. This is where you share what you learned, talk about your story, and connect with your people. Now that you’ve healed and done the work for yourself, you can support others.

 
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Image courtesy of paceco.com

 
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Exercise: Your Heroic Journey

Create your story with the Your Heroic Journey worksheet here.

 
 
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Exercise: Your Magical Message

Your magical message is the wisdom, gift, or insight that you have to share on the other side of your heroic journey. Now that you’ve been through it for yourself, you can hold the space for someone else to take their own.

Brain dump all of the things you would want to tell someone just embarking on their journey:

(For example, for body issues it might be “it’s safe to trust your body,” “your cravings are telling you something,” etc.)

When you’re done, look at your list. Which one feels most resonant for you?

And that’s your magical message!

Like your campfire beliefs, you will use this multiple times in multiple ways all throughout your business and your content. This is also not a hard and fast thing, you can always change, tweak, and experiment with it. For now, commit to one and see what shifts for you. Have fun!

Download this as a worksheet here.