What to do when it feels like fear is winning

Since the shooting in Orlando I’ve been processing, talking, sharing with friends and family about how it’s made us feel. I can feel the anger, the fear, the helplessness, the sadness and grief intuitively within the collective - not to mention every time I open Facebook or check in with a client. As a consciousness, we are grieving. And we are angry.

Why did this happen? How is it possible there are still people with so much anger, so much hatred, so much fear in their hearts that they could possibly do a thing like this?

I don’t have the answers.

All I know is that we are living on this planet during a time of great change. The forces of love, of joy, of goodness and abundance are growing and so it is natural that there would be a reaction. According to a Course in Miracles, “love brings forth anything unlike itself for the purpose of healing and release.” When we are faced with great love, stuff comes up. I see it on an individual level all of the time with myself and my clients, and I see it happening on a societal level with gun violence, rape culture, and divisive politics. Our fears of unworthiness, of not being able to be who we truly are, of judgment, of rejection, all come up to be transmuted when finally presented with unconditional love and acceptance.

This process is not easy. As we see, it can be downright tragic. But instead of taking it as evidence that fear is winning, I am trusting that there is a higher plan in place and we will never be abandoned. Continue to step out in faith, and truth, and love, because that is the only thing that will ensure that love, actually, wins.

What to do when it feels like fear is winning:

  1. Talk. Talk about it. With your friends, your family, your community, your people. If you don't want to talk to people, journal it or record your thoughts into a recorder. Talk about your feelings, your grief, your anger, your hope and your love. Talking about it is the only way to connect, and connection is the path to healing. 
  2. Trust. That there is a higher plan in place. That everything is working out for the greatest good. That your anger and fear and grief has a purpose. That you are not, and never will be, alone in this. 
  3. Take action. Call your representative. VOTE. Sign a petition. Let everyone know how you feel. We talk a lot about inspired action in your business, and it's the same principle. Whatever you feel moved to do, do it. Action helps the emotion move through you into something productive. 

This is an important conversation, so if this is resonating with you please reply to this email and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

I love you, and love wins.