Stop shoulding on yourself.

This is one of my favorite phrases my friends and I use. You can always tell when it's about to be dropped - one of us is struggling with the perception that they should be doing more of something they're not - 

  • Exercising more
  • Exercising less
  • Working less
  • Working more
  • Relaxing more
  • Relaxing less

Whatever it is, I can guarantee you it's some variation of the same - doing more or less of something they think they "should" be doing. 

What I've learned over the past couple of years is that if you're not doing something you "should" be, there's probably a very good reason for it. In fact, I know there is. 

There's a block. Maybe you don't want to work out because your body actually needs a break. Maybe you're working 24/7 because you're avoiding a personal issue. Maybe you're procrastinating by "relaxing" because your work actually doesn't feel in alignment. 

When we release the "shoulds," the guilt, the blame, and the shame around a perception that we should or shouldn't be doing something, we can see what's actually there. 

So my question to you is - where are the "shoulds" in your life hiding the "coulds"? Because when we free ourselves, anything becomes possible. What could you do with all that free mental energy? I bet it's something really amazing.