Five steps to taking your power back

Five steps to taking your power back

So, you got triggered. Whether it was by a tough client, something your partner said, or Mercury was in retrograde, something caused you to start to spin out.

First, breathe. The truth is that we all get triggered all the time. Especially when you’re a coach, teacher, or healer and you’ve chosen to do transformational work, triggers and growth are part of the process. Celebrate it! It means a breakthrough is available for you.

That said, we can start to shorten the cycle of how triggered you get by a certain person or situation.

Five counterintuitive manifesting tricks

Google hit me recently with one of those "rediscover this day" reminders. On this particular day three years ago I was on what was supposed to be a really fun ski trip with my family. 

All I remember from that trip is the intense money shame and anxiety I was feeling. 

I was about five months full-time into my business, had no money coming in, and was totally freaked out about what I was going to do.

I didn't feel like I could talk to anyone or tell them what was going on, because I felt like a complete failure. 

I was basically living off my credit cards, and was terrified to check the balances because I knew I wasn't going to be able to pay them off.

I was trying to do all the things - budget the money I didn't have, spend less than the shoestring I was already trying to keep myself on, market the business that didn't feel aligned and scared the crap out of me. 

It took another five months for things to get bad enough to force me to try something that - at the time - felt so radical and different it was almost silly.

Money mindset work.

I realized that none of the conventional advice I was hearing - track my spending, create categories for my expenses, market my business in order to make more sales, etc., was going to work unless I dealt with the deep existential money fear and anxiety that was ever-present in my life. 

Unless I dealt with the emotional, spiritual, and psychological aspects of money I knew nothing else was going to work. 

Because ultimately, it's not actually about money. Money is a portal and a mirror for all the other limiting beliefs, fears, self-doubt, and other bullshit that we unconsciously carry that keeps us small. 

So, I surrendered. I let myself look "silly." I got extra woo, practicing visualization, EFT tapping, and checks from the Universe. I committed to a daily routine to keep myself high-vibe. I made my mindset my absolute number one priority over anything else.

Some of it worked. Some of it didn't. 

But it worked enough that today, I've paid off my debt, created a successful business, and most importantly, have a thriving relationship with money that carries over into all other areas of my life. 

There is a lot of spiritual misinformation and bypassing that goes into this conversation, and I'm committed to radical transparency around my experience and what I've discovered ACTUALLY works.

Here's the top counterintuitive five things I've learned that work every time:

1. Feel your feelings.

Yes, even the bad ones. Yes, even the ones that you're worried are projecting "negativity" into the world. Feelings buried alive never die, they just go underground into your subconscious where they mess with your manifestations in the real world. So do what you need to do to feel it all in order to clear it and call in more positive feelings.

2. Celebrate your messes.

The money mistakes, mess-ups, totally fucked up situations that may be in your past (or present)? They're all showing you the way home, highlighting the places you have room to grow, and the limiting stories that you have that are ready to get healed. Think about it - without those situations, you wouldn't be inspired to heal your money stuff, right?? Right. So thank them.

3. Practice active appreciation.

This is different from gratitude, which can feel empty and hollow when we're deep in our stuff. Practicing active appreciation puts you back in the drivers seat by meeting whatever you're appreciating on equal ground. For example, in order to deeply, actively appreciate a cup of coffee I would notice its aroma, it's robust flavor, appreciate how good it tastes and how much it wakes me up. This puts me in a feel-good spiral of appreciating other things around me and pulls me out of a self-pitying funk every time. 

4. Get radically honest.

In every area. About everything. Get honest about what you want, how big your dreams are, how far away you might feel from them, and how afraid you are they may never come to fruition. Oftentimes we deny or bottle up our thoughts because we're afraid, but getting radically honest about all of it frees you up 

5. TAKE ACTION.

Even if it's as small as calling a friend to cry. Even if it's as big as tracking your finances for the past quarter. Take as big or as small of a step as you can, acknowledge yourself, rinse, and repeat. 

I believe in you,
Natalie

Eleven elements of witchy women

As I have awoken to the ways I have been afraid of my own power, and coached hundreds of women who have felt the same, I have realized more and more that it’s not because there is something wrong with us.

Society systematically invalidates and devalues gifts like empathy, intuition, and communication.

Which is exactly what makes a powerful coach, healer, and overall witchy woman.

The word witch conjures negative images for many. Green skin with huge warts, women who cast evil spells, or crazy ladies out in the woods.

This is a patriarchal story that is designed to keep women from recognizing and owning their true power - the power to love, heal, and create the world anew.

Which we obviously, desperately need.

So, how do you know if you're a witchy woman? Here are 11 traits that all witchy women have:

1. She is connected to her intuition - that still, small voice within that tells her when something is off, or to go in a certain direction or make a new decision. She knows when something feels right, and when it feels off. She takes action on the nudges and whispers, even when it doesn't make logical sense, because she knows that magic is waiting on the other side.

2. She manifests her desires - She knows that her desires are worthy, valid, and important so she takes action to create them. She values her desires as key points in her life's compass, guiding her to her biggest growth areas. She is willing to do the work that it takes to become the kind of person who has what she wants, which is really the essence of magic.

3. She speaks her truth - She is unafraid to say what she sees or point out the thing no one else will. She is bold, unapologetic, and fierce in her pursuit and sharing her truth. She may sometimes be afraid of what people might think of her, but she knows that speaking her truth will always set her free. She values her freedom over anyone else's judgment.

4. She faces her shadow - Wealthy witches know that "love and light" is only half the story, and that the real transformation happens when we face the darkness. She is willing to dive deep into her fears, her limiting beliefs, and her wounds in order to bring them up for healing. She knows that by facing and transmuting her pain, she activates her power.

5. She walks her duality - After all that shadow work, she is comfortable holding paradox and duality. She knows that things are not always as they seem, and that we can always choose how we look at it - positively or negatively. She is unafraid of complexity, depth, and nuance because she knows that that is where the truth always lies. She also knows that she has a choice in how to relate to that truth - from a victim mindset or an empowered one.  

6. She trusts her process - She knows that healing is non-linear, and that comparison is a losing game. She knows that as long as she keeps taking the next right action, and choosing her vision over her fear, she is on her path and will get to where she needs to be. She is fierce about managing her energy because she knows that strong boundaries will facilitate her breakthroughs.

7. She shares her magic - She unapologetically puts herself out there to share her healing, coaching, spiritual gifts with the world. She knows that what she has to offer is a unique reflection of her magic and what she's on this planet to do. She recognizes that hiding out serves no one, least of all herself. She joyfully connects with the people who need her most.

8. She charges her value - She knows that in order to live on the material plane, she needs to receive material compensation for her work. She is confident in charging for her services in a way that reflects their value. She attracts clients who are eager to transform their lives and are excited to invest in themselves.

9. She knows her power - She has experienced time and time again that the outer world is only a reflection of her inner world, and so she is continually raising her vibration. She knows that the power to create the life she wants lies within her, and that she is the only one who can wield it. She is confident in her ability to choose a new reality in any moment.

10. She leads her tribe - She knows that part of her calling on Earth at this time is to be a catalyst for the new paradigm. She is unapologetic about leading her tribe accordingly, whether that's her family or an online presence of thousands. She stands for a vision of the world that is healed, loved, and joyful, and inspired people around her to do the same.

11. She heals herself to heal the world - She knows that to change the world, she must start with herself. She recognizes that her healing is everyone's healing, and that the more empowered and whole she becomes, the better she can serve her tribe and create her work in the world. As she rises, we all rise. Rising together we can heal the world. 

If this resonates with you, you'll love my free e-book, the Wealthy Witch’s Guide to Creating a Life + Business that Feel Like Magic. To get your witchy hands on it and lots more freebie resources to make your magic in the world, click here!

Why 2018 is the year of the wealthy witch

Over the past year we’ve seen drastic developments in modern women’s empowerment. The Women’s March and the #metoo movement are the crest of the wave that has been gathering for some time.

We’ve also seen how the old ways are crumbling faster than ever before - unprecedented natural disasters and the toxic political climate are symptoms of a system that is failing. 

These two things happening together are not an accident. 

Women are rising all over the planet, claiming our voices, our healing gifts, our sovereignty, and yes, our wealth. We are here to heal ourselves and heal the world. 

We are also learning that to do that we have to be well-resourced. We are leaning into the value of our energetic, intuitive, spiritual healing gifts and messages. We are finally internalizing the idea that we are the ones that we’ve been waiting for, and the world needs our magic. 

We are moving beyond self-doubt, beyond ancestral trauma, beyond “what will people think?!”, into confidence, self-assuredness, and grounded manifestation of a world based on truth, joy, love, and magic. 

That is the gift of the witch.

To know her desires.

And take action to create them. 

If you are a sensitive, feeling, intuitive woman you’ve probably been told your whole life to not take things so personally, that how you feel doesn’t matter, and to shut down your intuition in favor of what society tells you you should think. 

If you’re like the women I work with, over the past few years you’ve started to experience breakdowns in which the status quo is not only crumbling, it’s no longer viable. You feel stuck and unfulfilled in life as it “should be,” and so you’ve started to look at other ways of being, living, and making money. 

You may even have started your own business, but you’re not yet seeing the income and impact you want because fear and self-doubt is still holding you back. 

This can feel frustrating and demoralizing. Patriarchy, internalized and otherwise, does not get dismantled overnight. 

Nevertheless, it has never been a better time to be a spiritual woman with a visionary business. Every breakdown, every challenge, every struggle you’ve experienced up until this point has been preparing you for this moment. You are brave, you are strong, and you are ready. 

There are three keys I have learned in my years of supporting creative, witchy, intuitive women in overcoming fear and self-doubt to make money with their spiritual work. Hundreds of women have used this knowledge to transform their lives and their businesses. 

Three Keys to Unlocking Your Inner Wealthy Witch

1. Claim your desires. Yes, you are worthy of what you want. No, it is not selfish, self-centered, or arrogant to go after your desires. In fact, it is the only true raw material we have to work with in order to create a better world. The only person we can control, influence, or improve is ourselves. And we do that through becoming the kind of person who takes action on what they want. So, get clear on what you want. Time freedom? $5k above expenses every month? A house by the beach? To travel with your family? Own it, write it down, and decide the single next right action you can take towards creating it. 

2. Get visible with your gifts. If you’re reading this, you have a healing gift that someone else needs. Your coaching packages, your yoga classes, your intuitive guidance sessions, your healing messages. But your people can’t find you if they don’t know who and where you are. I see SO many women holding themselves back from the kind of business they desire because they’re worried about what people will think of them. The kind of people who will judge you are not your people. The people who will pay you are your people. Start talking about your business, about your work, about your passions, and the right people will respond. 

3. Heal your money story + learn how to receive. Most of us grew up with shitty, unhelpful money stories. We believe that money is the root of all evil, or that you only get it after working 80 hours a week on no sleep. We are terrified of it so we live in overdraft or rack up secret credit card debt. How you relate to money is a window to how you relate to life, and it can be a portal for your deepest healing. But only if you let it. Be brave enough to learn how to make friends with money and receive material wealth for your gifts. Write a new money story to one based on love, joy, and abundance. Watch the wealth flood in. 

This work is not easy, but it can be simple. And on the other side of it is the freedom, abundance, space, magic, and love that you know in your soul is possible for you. As one of us rises, we all rise. This year, I hope you choose to rise as the Wealthy Witch that you are.

These are the foundations of my free e-book, the Wealthy Witch’s Guide to Creating a Life + Business that Feel Like Magic. To get your witchy hands on it and lots more freebie resources to make your magic in the world, click here.

Spiders, shadows, and solar eclipses

You may not know this about me, but I've been terrified of spiders since I was a little girl. I'm not scared of most things, but spiders get me every time. A few years ago, when I was first starting my divine feminine awakening journey, I read somewhere that since spiders represent the Divine Feminine creative force of the Universe, a woman who's afraid of spiders is also afraid of her power. Which means on a certain level, she is afraid of herself.

This rang so true to me that I committed to working through my fear of spiders then and there. A few months later, my sister tried to scare me with one, and even though my throat was tight I didn't run away. And as I've gone deeper and deeper into exploring this shadow, I thought I had worked through my fear of spiders once and for all.

Until the night before this week's solar eclipse. Right now I'm home visiting my parents in the Pennsylvania woods, and late summer is prime spider time. My parents also have certain hippie-ish tendencies and don't believe in air conditioning, so they leave the doors open to whatever creepy-crawlies might want to join the party. Including spiders.

Imagine my horror when, between 10 pm and 1 am the night before the eclipse, I found not one, not two, but FIVE spiders in my room. One was even booking it across the floor towards my bed before I saw it. Luckily I had an abundance of water glasses in my room and was able to trap them all, but not before I became good and thoroughly triggered. My heart was pounding, the energy was flowing, and there was no way in hell I was going to sleep. I kept imagining a spider making its way onto my bed, over my pillow onto my face, and it was enough to keep me up for another few hours.

Needless to say I didn't sleep much.

The morning of the eclipse, I was so emotional I could barely function. I realized that even though I may have worked through my fear of one, singular spider, the fact that five of them had ganged up on me in the middle of the night, right before the solar eclipse felt too significant to ignore.

It goes without saying that this eclipse was a potent one, and ancient wisdom suggests that eclipses are a time to go within and to face our shadows so we can bring them into the light for healing. I realized that this was just another layer of my healing, to face my fears, and hold even more space for myself and the impact I'm here to make in the world.

When we go to make our magic and share our message with the world, our fears are going to rise up in order to keep us safe. But oftentimes, there's not actually anything to be afraid OF. The spiders can't actually hurt me. Other people's opinions or what they think of you definitely can't hurt you.

The problem is when we let our fears run the show, and keep us from taking the action and putting ourselves out there in the way we feel called to, we let them win.

We deprive the world of our magic.

What fears are holding you back from sharing your magic? That are keeping you playing small, stuck, or spinning your wheels?

Start to question them. Where are they real or not real? And what action can you take to start moving through it?

Reply back and let me know!

I believe in you,

Natalie