The real reason it's so scary to put yourself out there

It happens every.single.time.

"I'm so afraid to post about my business on Facebook because what if my old coworkers see what I'm doing and judge me?"

"I know I need to get more visible, but what if I do, and no one responds, and everyone knows what a failure I am?"

"I want to share more about Akashic records, but no one in my network knows what they are - how are they going to pay me for it?"

"I'm so sick of talking about basic business shit. I want to get extra-woo, but what if I alienate the people who already follow me?"

Sound familiar?

I've had these conversations over and over with clients, business besties, and myself.

The fear of getting visible online in order to share your magical work is real. It's normal. 
It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, it just means you're a human with an emotional reality ;)

There are two big reasons why it feels so uncomfortable (at first!):

  1. Sharing an offering from your soul's gifts isn't like selling any old product. Most of us have a deep aversion to selling in general, and then when you add the soul-baring vulnerability of selling the work that means the most to you? To a bunch of strangers? It's no wonder most of us would rather hide under the bed than do an Instagram story. 

  2. Claiming your truth and worth as an empowered woman and a leader, teacher, and healer is deeply disruptive to our societal status quo. When you do this you're going against centuries of patriarchal conditioning that is engineered to sit us down and shut us up. By making yourself visible you are going against that conditioning, so of course it's going to feel uncomfortable, and even painful at first. It's also a deeply radical act from which true confidence and power emerges.

In order to have the kind of businesses - and the kind of world - that we want, we have to get comfortable being visible. We have to get comfortable sharing our voices, our values, the things that matter most to us and the amazing work that we do.

Because it's not just about us.

When one of us claims her power, she makes it easier for the sister next to her. She heals her lineage backwards and forwards. She creates a ripple effect in her world that changes everything.

You're not alone.

Every single entrepreneur I know has had to go through this initiation.

And there are ways to make it easier.

Three ways to get comfortable putting yourself out there

  1. Start small. You don't have to go blasting what you're up to all over your social media (at least at first ;) ). Tell one person a day what you're up to, even if you start with the mailman. Side note: I did not do this. For six months into my coach training the only people who knew what I was doing were my parents, my best friend, and my boyfriend at the time. I was so freaked out by what people would think of me that I hid for a long time, and it's one of my deepest regrets from when I was getting started. So don't be like me. 

  2. Get consistent. Tell one person every day. Write a little bit in your journal every day. When you feel ready, start posting on social media every day. Small things add up big time in the long run, and consistency is a habit that will serve you for the life of your business. For journaling, I love the Morning Pages practice from the Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, which has the side benefit of being a great tool for content creation.

  3. Be brave. This is one of those things that only gets easier with practice. The first few times might feel awkward AF, and that's ok. Embrace the discomfort as a sign that you're growing, and keep leaning into your vision. You've got this.

There are people who desperately need you, who are waiting for what you have to offer.

But you have to go first and get visible so they can find you and pay you.

What are your biggest fears when it comes to getting visible? Email me here and let me know!

You've got this.

Are you hiding your magic?

A few years ago, once I realized that it wasn’t just me who had this seemingly irrational fear of visibility and selling in my business, I got really, really curious.

SO many of the clients I was speaking to were saying the same thing -

I know what I need to be putting myself out there more, but I’m scared

I know that I need to raise my rates and have better money boundaries, but I can’t

I know that I need to get honest about the magic of the work I do, but I’m afraid no one will understand

Outwardly, these women seemed to have everything going for them - confidence, education, multiple courses and certifications under their belt - and yet, they were wracked by anxiety and self-doubt when it came to making money with their spiritual gifts.

What gives?

As I talked to more women I realized these fears were not just about business. These were fears around being fully who we are - and the acceptance, or lack thereof, that we receive when we let our true magic out.

And then, I landed on the witch wound.

What is the witch wound?

The witch wound is the collection of mental wounds, limiting beliefs, and psychic trauma that all women - but especially highly sensitive, empathic, intuitive women - carry after centuries of our culture’s invalidation, disempowerment, and abuse.

Society has systematically invalidated feminine gifts like intuition, embodiment, collaboration, emotional intelligence, and healing - you know, all the things that we’re good at.

This can show up in our family systems as:

  • Always feeling misunderstood or like an outsider,

  • Fears that you can’t “hack it” that lead to overfunctioning and burnout, or

  • Writing your sensitivity off as weakness or airy-fairy.

Most of us didn’t grow up in spiritually-attuned families, and so the very things that make us magical are the very things that were rejected when we were younger.

The process of healing the witch wound, and claiming your power as the wealthy witch you are, is in embracing the very things that you learned to hide up until now.

Three Keys to Healing the Witch Wound

Acknowledge your magic

It’s time to stop hiding. Acknowledging the fact that you are magical, that you are sensitive, and empathic, and intuitive gives you a ton of power. Instead of muscling through pretending to be something you’re not, learning to acknowledge and respect your gifts is one of the most important reclamation tools there is. You don’t even have to tell anyone else. Deciding for yourself is enough.

Claim your worth

Recognize that the exact thing that makes you different is just that - the thing that makes you different! This is what makes you, YOU. It is the thing that you, and only you can bring to the world, and it is exactly what your clients will pay for. You have something special to bring to them, and you’re not doing anyone any favors by hiding out. You are worthy now, just as you are, and it’s time to claim it.

Embrace your power

The amazing thing about being an empathic, intuitive, sensitive woman is that, even though patriarchy will tell us that we’re weak, we’re actually super, super powerful. Why do you think they had to undermine us so completely? Witchy women are the best manifestors, have the biggest hearts, and are here to change the game. It’s time to stop buying into the story that we’re “less-than,” and time to embrace our power as the world-changes and paradigm shifters we are.

There has never been a better time to be a witchy woman. Let your magic out and watch your world transform.

What resonates for you? Email me here and let me know!`

The risky move that will transform your business

At first, when we feel like we’re on the brink of an uplevel, we second-guess ourselves.

We KNOW that what we want is possible.

And yet, there is zero evidence to support that.

Reality is showing us the exact opposite.

Maybe your client pool has dried up - and your income along with it.

Maybe your content isn't getting as much engagement as it used to.

Maybe you feel like you're treading water, working so hard and not seeing any progress.

It’s time to start going on blind faith.

The Internet says that, "blind faith occurs when someone puts their faith into something without any evidence."

In a business context this looks like:

  • Pivoting your message because you feel like it’s time to be having a new conversation - without knowing how people are going to respond.

  • Doubling your prices because you finally got wise to the life-changing value of the work you do - although you’re still afraid that no one will pay.

  • Committing to mindset and energetic work over strategy because you can feel that’s where you breakthrough is, although it hasn’t happened yet, and your ego is screaming that you need to be “productive.”

I'm not recommending blind faith is the right move in every situation. But I am saying that, at certain pivotal points in your life, the willingness to take a chance on blind faith is what separates those who succeed from those who stagnate.

After all, what good is being a witch if we aren't using our gifts?

Our intuition.

Our power.

Our commitment.

Our CHOICE that things get to be different, better, more fun, flowy and abundant.

So, how to discern when it's time to take a leap of blind faith?

You’ve been doing all the logical things, and it’s not working

Our egos want to make sure we check all the boxes, especially when we’re doing something as scary as upleveling. So, we follow the step by step scripts, we learn the strategies, and we follow the content formulas. But in my experience, and the experience of 100’s of my clients, is that those things don’t work unless you’re backing it up with soul. Aligning with your higher self, your soul, does take a leap of blind faith because you don’t know who you’re going to be on the other side. But it’s always, 100% worth it.

You can’t see ALL the steps, but you can see the first step

I hear this SO often. “I can see my vision, but I have no idea how it’s all going to come together,” “I feel overwhelmed with how many things there are to do between here and there,” or, my favorite, “I need to make a business plan for the next couple of years.” I can guarantee you that, at least in the beginning, whatever plan you make is going to be out the window in a month or less. Being willing to take the first right step, without seeing all the steps, is how you figure out the next step after that. And the one after that.

You know in your heart you have to do something radical to get what you want

Sometimes, all it takes is the knowing. The feeling. The whisper. That it’s time to let go of all the ways you’ve been trying to protect yourself, procrastinate, or hold on to the status quo, and do something completely revolutionary. It doesn’t have to be actually starting a war. It has to be something out of the norm enough for you that it creates a pattern interrupt in your day to day, and signals to your subconscious that, whoa - things are going to be different from now on.

(I think you can tell which one is my favorite?!)

(JK, they’re all my favorite).

What kind of blind leap are you ready to take?

If this is resonating with you, and you’re ready to finally trust yourself to go for it and take the blind leap your heart has been calling you towards, there are only a few spots left in Wealth Alchemy.

Over the course of this private, immersive, nine-month journey with me, we will:

  • Turn your blind leap of faith into the best thing that has ever happened to you.

  • Turn your message into a movement that instantly resonates with your ideal client and inspires them to buy

  • Create packages and programs based on YOUR soul journey and transformation, not what you feel like you “have to” or what you think will sell.

  • Upgrade your wealth frequency so you can easily command rates of $5k, $10k and up, and feel comfortable receiving it (no more self-sabotage)!

  • Claim your power as the confident, self-assured, sovereign leader, teacher, healer that you are

If you are ready to put your blind faith in your own next level, I’d love to partner with you. Email me here for more details and an application.

The real reason we stay stuck

It’s something I hear a lot.

I’m doing all the things, but I feel like I’m spinning my wheels

I know I should be further along by now, but I just can’t seem to break through

I know what my message is / who my audience is / what my program is, but it’s just not clicking

We feel stuck.

Feeling stuck is such a common experience among entrepreneurs, and most of us default to the logical thing to get un-stuck. We try harder. We put in more hours. We try “that thing” again (you know, the thing that didn’t work the 70 other times you tried it).

The real reason women stay stuck isn’t because they’re lacking strategy, or don’t have the skills.

The real reason women stay stuck is because there’s still some tiny part of them that’s afraid of what they’ll lose when they actually get the thing they want.

Whether it’s hitting the income goal, signing the big client, growing your audience, whatever it is for you, I can guarantee you that if you don’t have it yet, there is a part of you that’s hanging on to something from the old way.

It may be a belief.

It may be a habit or pattern.

It may be as small as when you’re choosing to eat lunch.

Think about it - does the six-figure CEO version of you eat lunch hunched over at her desk at 3 pm? When she got into this business to never have to do that again in the first place?!

No, she does not.

But the biggest thing I see witchy women are hanging on to are outdated relationship dynamics. Whether it’s a romantic partner, your mother, or your clients, the idea of renegotiating those as you step into your new level often inspires terror.

This comes from our fear of losing, upsetting, or disrupting our relationships. Witchy, empathic women are conditioned and acculturated to not rock the boat. The last thing we want is to upset the people around us, or make them uncomfortable.

Because we can feel all that upset and discomfort! Duh.

So, we stay stuck in the fear of what people will think of us when we ask for what we want.

We stay stuck in relationship dynamics that don’t support our highest good.

And we stay stuck spinning our wheels doing “all the things” in our business, afraid to look at the really scary thing that will actually make the difference.

The thing is, going after your dreams, especially in an unconventional way like building your own business, and ESPECIALLY like setting big income and impact goals, is going to rock the boat.

And it has nothing at all to do with you.

The second you start to detach from trying to please everyone else and choose your truth, your sovereignty, and your goals?

The money is going to start to flow.

Raise your standards - especially in your relationships - and the money will meet you there.

So, how do we do this?

  1. Get clear. What’s your vision? Who do you need to be to hold that vision? How does that version of you show up in your relationships?

  2. Get honest. Where are you NOT showing up as that? What are you afraid of saying or asking for? Where do you need to transmute some of this fear into power?

  3. Get proactive. Where do you need to have a tough conversation? Where do you need to do the scary thing?

Get clear, and go do it.

And, it’s very very hard to do it alone.

You’ve been swimming in these beliefs, patterns, and habits your whole life. Our need for belonging is one of our deepest core needs, and even though you know you won’t die when you get what you want, your survival mechanism might not.

The truth is that if you could have shifted these patterns on your own you would have by now.

You need someone to can create a rock-solid container, who’s not going to buy into your BS, and who is going to hold you to the level of the woman, leader, teacher, healer you’re becoming.

No matter what tries to get in your way.

If this is resonating for you, I’d love to partner with you in Wealth Alchemy.

Wealth Alchemy is a private, nine-month immersion into becoming the most high-impact, high-value, high-integrity leader that you’re here to be… and getting paid accordingly.

We’ll work intimately for the nine months, and by the end you will have:

  • Gotten crystal clear on your soul-level message for the world (not the cookie-cutter thing the internet marketers tell you you should be saying)

  • Built irresistible programs and packages at $5k, $10k and up, that feel 100% authentic to sell and create epic, life-changing results for your clients

  • Upgraded your money mindset into your next-level wealth frequency, and developed a bank account accordingly

  • Gotten comfortable being visible as the leader, teacher, and healer you are, effortlessly magnetizing all kind of opportunities to grow your audience

  • Grounded into the embodiment and BEING of the sovereign six-figure CEO and movement maker that you know in your heart you are.

Ready for more?

Send me an email and I’ll send you more details.

The counterintuitive thing to do when it feels your business isn’t working

After I had my oracle card breakthrough, I started doing a lot of things differently.

The biggest one?

Was not basing my goals based on what had happened in the past (in other words, epic failure), but basing them off what I knew in my heart was possible.

You see, your past results have ZERO bearing on your future potential.

Your brain will tell you that they do. That if it’s been this hard in the past, it’s going to keep being hard.

But that’s actually a trick your brain plays that tries to keep you safe.

You get to CHOOSE in each moment, every day what you actually want. This is what it means to live into your divine self. To access all of the possibilities available to you and align your energy with them.

It’s easy to think that if you’re not seeing the results you want in your business, that the answer is to pull back.

Set smaller goals.

Offer a smaller program.

Take a smaller number of clients.

But the truth is, if you’re not seeing the results you want in your business, the answer is not to pull back.

The answer is to go BIGGER.



Ask for MORE.

If you’re fiddling around with $1k courses expecting to grow a six figure business, the truth is you’re going to be fiddling for a long ass time.

After I had that call with my old coach, I set some pretty huge goals for 2016, which included tripling my rates.

I went from charging $2200 for a six month program to $6000 for a six month program.

At the time, that number felt totally crazy. It also felt 100% aligned to me, the work I actually wanted to be doing, and the value that I was bringing to my clients.

I started showing up differently because of it. I showed up differently online, at my workshops, and on my sales calls.

After I set that new rate, I got hired three times in a week and went on to fill that program.

I couldn’t have done it without personalized support from a master coach.

Because when you decide to go big or go home like that, all your stuff is going to come up. Even more than it does when you’re sitting in resistance. Because now you’re actually DOING it.

You can’t to transform the limiting beliefs that are sabotaging you by watching another free livestream, commenting on another Facebook post, or continuing to sit on the sidelines.

You have to actually say yes to the scary thing, step into the fire, and get after it.

Because, as cliche as it is, everything you want truly is on the other side of your fear.

My brand-new, nine-month personalized immersion experience, Wealth Alchemy, is designed to support you in doing just that.

If you’re tired of hiding out, of sticking to what’s comfortable even though it’s not working -

This is for you.

Your expertise, insight, and wisdom needs to be in the hands of the people who desperately need to hear from YOU. And they don’t need your surface-level program, either.

They need you to dig deep, and mine the gold that’s sitting in your heart in order to share it and hold the space for transformation

But you have to go first

And the first step is saying yes to doing the work for yourself.

If you’re ready, email me here and I’ll send you more details and the application.